Lately, I’ve been through pandemic for a year − of course, not just me, all of us. Less contact to others and less direct socialization, I thought it was a really good situation for me who don’t like to socialize a lot, but it is totally wrong. Now, here I am craving to talk to people directly, not from the Zoom or any other apps. It turns out to be nightmare for me also. Many things that I should do have to be limited and many plans are cancelled due to this pandemic. I have to be adapted with this new normal. According to Darwin’s theory of evolution, those individuals most suited to their environment will survive, if not they would not survive, in summary, natural selection. For me, I am hopeless that the pandemic will be suddenly gone and all of us back to our, was, normal. It is just like waiting a winged-pig that could swing a katana and summon a demon king to come. So, here I am want to share some of mind-hack that may be useful for you who read this, or no, it’s o.k. I just want to share this anyway.
Control what you could control
I learn something in hard way, and Voila, the pandemic does its job. There a lot of things that I could not control lately. I was being stubborn and chose to do it anyway those things and what I got, nope. I could not do that thing because of the situation. Happiness comes when human achieve something, but when human could not achieve it, they are being sad and unhappy. I felt it, how failure I am, how done I am due to this situation, like it just needs a single click and buh-bye. I take a time alone at my room, I help to do little house chores, sometimes reading, just take a little moment to take a break from what had happened. At that point, I realize one thing. There is something that we could not control, we just walk but the result is blurry. I always want everything to be well controlled by me, but life is not that easy-written. I do what I could do; I control what I could control. The first thing first that I want to control is myself. Someone once told me “You are born alone, and you will die alone”. It means the things that I could control is me, myself, and I. I should control what I could do and what I could not do. We are human after all. We have our portions, and deal with it. May be in practical ways, you could do something like decorate your room, or decorate your workspace. You could find more what suited best for you. If you can’t find it, then make it.
Less expect to others
I always hope that the pandemic will be over in 2 weeks and we live our normal life again. No, big no. It has been a year and still there is no way out through this condition. It even becomes worse, obituaries come again and again. The death tolls increase times to times. The hospital capacity is full. The health workers are overwhelmed. Many people lose their jobs. I don’t know to who I have to hope for. The situation is really complex. At least, the one that I could expect the most is me. I have to be aware that being outside and socialize is risky right now. At least if I want to go outside or meet people, it has to be really important and urgent needs. I could not expect that the virus does not live around me or in someone which I meet. Back to the point above, I should control myself first.
What I want to say is, the pandemic is suck, I miss my old normal life, run anywhere I want, go to cafe with all of my friends until the days changed, no mask, no worry ; but let’s deal with it. We have to live and survive. I know you would find something important because of this situation. Finding new interest, finding new hobby, finding the meaning of relationship, finding the love of family, or finding yourself.
